Have you ever had someone prod you, “No honestly, tell me what you think”, only to have it blow up in your face? Or maybe that person has been you. You told a friend to be honest, and then when they were, you couldn’t properly deal with the criticism or the emotion that came swiftly behind it.
An old Jewish proverb provides a brief but brilliant commentary on situations like this, observing, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”
The premise of Where Do You Go lyrically is just that: the solidarity that can be found in relationship.
I suppose I believe that most moderns don’t experience deep relationships, and I propose that it has something to do with pride, the vacuous lack of humility. People think they are in a meaningful relationship because they are having sex and telling each other secrets, but the strongest relationships are the ones in which our ego is put to death. I would liken this kind of death to the death of a seed in good soil; and when it has died, it bears much fruit.
And in these kinds of relationship questions such as “Where do you go in your head when all this hell (inner or outer turmoil) is going on?” are asked. And there can only be one honest answer and a thousand lies. But the honest answer is met with “say what you have to say, you know that I love you”, and various other consolations, like what my mother used to say to me when I was being miserable: “you’re tired, you’re having a lousy day, don’t take yourself seriously right now”. Honesty via humility can be met with remedy by someone who actually loves you, regardless of how messed up you are.
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